That gender gap tho

    • Queen HawlSera
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      I’ve sadly seen women say they don’t mind losing the right to vote if it means going back to a more “sensible time”

  • socsa
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    All genders who vote against Trump are sexy. All people who vote for him are trash.

  • @[email protected]
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    Why do you feel that sexiness is an appropriate scale to be using here? There is more to women than their sex appeal.

    • Dem Bosain
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      Smart girls are sexy. I want someone I can discuss my mathematical theories with. I have some thoughts on prime numbers that can’t be contained.

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        To preface, one of the initial things that attracted me to my wife was her antifascist beliefs. But also, like, I don’t want people to tell me how hot it is that I vote unless we’re already flirting. This is just me having been raised right.

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          I made this post because demographically with early voting we are potentially seeing a historic gender divide in voting, it seems women in general want Trump nowhere near the whitehouse at this point.

          We will see how the numbers shakeout when all the votes are in but if the numbers keep going the way they look like they will, and Kamala Harris wins, what people will remember is that Trump and Jdcouch fucked with women and got wrecked for it.

          If this happens I am sorry I don’t have any other way to describe it other than “sexy”, but I am referring not to an attraction or leering towards any particular woman, rather the nebulous blob of feminity that is a whole range of lived identities and expressions of gender coming together to say fuck off to a fascist is the thing I was trying to call sexy. It is an expression of collective depth of caring interwoven with a practical expression of power, “badass” doesn’t really encapsulate it.

          • @[email protected]
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            rather the nebulous blob of feminity that is a whole range of lived identities and expressions of gender coming together to say fuck off to a fascist is the thing I was trying to call sexy

            yeah dude that doesn’t sound any less weird

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    DO NOT TAKE ANYTHING FOR GRANTED

    • vote early if you can
    • tell your friends to vote early
    • contact your local campaign and see if you can help – it’s not too late!
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      Non-american here: why is voting early recommended so often on Lemmy? What advantage does it give?

      • @[email protected]
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        In many conservative run states areas where Democrats are most concentrated have very few places to vote so lines are long. And they even pass laws making it illegal to bring people waiting in the lines food or water.

        It’s a deliberate tactic to disenfranchise voters.

      • socsa
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        An early vote is a certain vote. A vote on election day is a bet that you don’t slip in the shower and die before then.

      • @[email protected]
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        I can’t speak for other states but in Texas early voting means you can vote at any polling place in your county. They reduce the amount of available polling places on actual election day, and you must vote at the polling place for your precinct only as well. So you’re more likely to have less of a wait time than on election day, and thus it’ll be easier to do.

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      Same goes with being sexy. It’s something one has to work on.

      • Work out to keep fit
      • Wear clothes that flatter your figure
      • Walk with confidence
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    Idk what it is about masculinity that loves submissive women but tbh to me as a dude whose pretty switch it’s a weird red flag.

    Like a teenager wanting to be a cop.

    It is so fucking hot when a girl grabs my junk when I didn’t expect it (when we’re an item and it’s clearly consensual). Or something.

    Idk.

    Maybe I’m queer 🕺

    • @[email protected]
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      Fellas, is it gay to want a woman that wants you?

      Idk what it is about masculinity that loves submissive women

      That’s insecure masculinity. Men who are secure don’t need a woman to be submissive. She will be with him by her own volition because she feels safe with him.

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        There’s a difference between submissiveness in sex scenarios and submissiveness in the rest of life, though. I don’t think wanting the former means somebody has toxic masculinity.

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      The weirdo asian fetish guys are the worst.

      Im a white guy and my wife just happens to be asian and they think that’s a pass to talk to me about how great submissive asian women are.

      My wife is not even remotely submissive, she’s one of the strongest people I know and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

      Strong, capable women are so much more interesting than this fetish idea of an opinion-less submissive sex slave.

    • peopleproblems
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      So from my perspective, the ‘submissive lady’ part is really only like a mental pleasure. An independent or powerful woman who herself chooses to submit to you temporarily is like the hottest goddamn thing I can think of.

      Otherwise? Yeah, I also want her to feel like she’s in control of what and when she wants things.

      It can’t be like total submission over everything. Otherwise it’s meaningless. Like I don’t want to always decide what to do for dinner. I don’t like writing all the checks. I like to cook, and I have specific ways I clean. I’m also not a mental health professional, but I’ll listen.

      A woman who can take care of herself and play helpless is my absolute dream. Women who are helpless are a lot of work and it was not worth everything I had to fucking put up with while being told I was absolute shit for not doing enough bleh

    • @[email protected]
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      Men who are inferior to their fellow men, are always most anxious to establish their superiority over women.

      -Mary Wollstonecraft

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      I’m too high to go on a rant about the feminist theory relating to bdsm, but I know plenty of militantly feminist male doms that prefer submissive women as partners. It’s when a guy associates his masculinity and his dom identity that you start seeing a lot of misogyny.

      • @[email protected]
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        I think that the important thing to remember is that just because something gets you off, that doesn’t mean it’s a good way to run the world.

        A feminist Dom makes sense to me, they are getting off on the control but only with someone who enjoys it, think lots of those guys get off even more on seeing what it’s doing for their sub.

    • @[email protected]
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      518 hours ago

      Idk what it is about masculinity that loves submissive women

      Here is an excellent book on the topic if you’re interested.

    • @[email protected]
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      Maybe some guys are just more confident in themselves and desire a bit of a challenge… The more outgoing and assured a woman is about their own desires, the better they are in the bedroom, at least for those that can deal with a woman’s needs instead of only thinking of their own pathetic self.

      Don’t get me wrong, there’s a place for many ways in the spectrum of stronger vs subdued, but the best is when regardless of the play outside the bedroom they can be clear about what they need and want once inside.

      A very astute observation from the author Heinlein:

      “Darling, a true lady takes off her dignity with her clothes and does her whorish best. At other times you can be as modest and dignified as your persona requires.”

      I’m not super happy about connotations of some of the words but for it’s time written, the summation of “fuck what society thinks and absolutely do anything you desire” holds great value.

      She doesn’t have to be a Dom to be clear about her needs. Strong confidence just means she knows her weapon and can bring a bit of a rumble to the tumble.

      Dudes who are afraid of strong chicks need to go jerk off in their overbuilt bullshit trucks and stop harassing women and trying to convince everyone their dicks aren’t 3".

      Take some fucking Viagra or something if you can’t keep it up when a woman talks.