Bought it for the pretty colours. Or it was free. Or a gift. Or it’s your partner’s and you filched it from their dresser. Or it looked presentable enough to go out in public. Or you had no idea it was about a band, but the words remind you of an inside joke.
Seems like another thing where it’s mainly people online or out of the actual situation getting bothered by it, when in real life it could just be
“Oh you like (band)?”
“No, I just thought the shirt looked cool.”
“Oh, okay.”
Then you could even reply with “so do you like them” and they might reply with “Fuck no, I hate them, they’re dogshit, not only do th…”. True story, was a really interesting convo though lol. But I’m not a woman so I don’t think I get as often questioned like that. Would probably get more annoying if I was.
As a girl who sometimes wears band shirts, there’s a certain type of guy, and it’s always a metal band, and he’ll walk straight up to you and go “Can you name the first album?”, “Can you name the drummer?”, and of course the most common “Can you name three songs?”. It’s not a nice friendly chat, you know you’re being quizzed. They’re checking if you’re ‘worthy’.
Yet I’ve been with guy friends who wear metal shirts every single day, and it never happens to them. Most they get is “Hey! Great band!”
As a trans woman, it felt like a culture shock to go from being able to talk to guys about my interests without being constantly questioned pretransition, to now being quizzed and told I’m doing things wrong every time I mention a hobby of mine to 90% of guys, even well intentioned ones. They don’t even realize they’re doing it most of the time.
Bought it for the pretty colours. Or it was free. Or a gift. Or it’s your partner’s and you filched it from their dresser. Or it looked presentable enough to go out in public. Or you had no idea it was about a band, but the words remind you of an inside joke.
Damn I really did not think about all that lol. All valid reasons.
Seems like another thing where it’s mainly people online or out of the actual situation getting bothered by it, when in real life it could just be
“Oh you like (band)?”
“No, I just thought the shirt looked cool.”
“Oh, okay.”
Then you could even reply with “so do you like them” and they might reply with “Fuck no, I hate them, they’re dogshit, not only do th…”. True story, was a really interesting convo though lol. But I’m not a woman so I don’t think I get as often questioned like that. Would probably get more annoying if I was.
As a girl who sometimes wears band shirts, there’s a certain type of guy, and it’s always a metal band, and he’ll walk straight up to you and go “Can you name the first album?”, “Can you name the drummer?”, and of course the most common “Can you name three songs?”. It’s not a nice friendly chat, you know you’re being quizzed. They’re checking if you’re ‘worthy’.
Yet I’ve been with guy friends who wear metal shirts every single day, and it never happens to them. Most they get is “Hey! Great band!”
As a trans woman, it felt like a culture shock to go from being able to talk to guys about my interests without being constantly questioned pretransition, to now being quizzed and told I’m doing things wrong every time I mention a hobby of mine to 90% of guys, even well intentioned ones. They don’t even realize they’re doing it most of the time.
That’s horrible
Fucking men