As a girl who sometimes wears band shirts, there’s a certain type of guy, and it’s always a metal band, and he’ll walk straight up to you and go “Can you name the first album?”, “Can you name the drummer?”, and of course the most common “Can you name three songs?”. It’s not a nice friendly chat, you know you’re being quizzed. They’re checking if you’re ‘worthy’.
Yet I’ve been with guy friends who wear metal shirts every single day, and it never happens to them. Most they get is “Hey! Great band!”
As a trans woman, it felt like a culture shock to go from being able to talk to guys about my interests without being constantly questioned pretransition, to now being quizzed and told I’m doing things wrong every time I mention a hobby of mine to 90% of guys, even well intentioned ones. They don’t even realize they’re doing it most of the time.
As a girl who sometimes wears band shirts, there’s a certain type of guy, and it’s always a metal band, and he’ll walk straight up to you and go “Can you name the first album?”, “Can you name the drummer?”, and of course the most common “Can you name three songs?”. It’s not a nice friendly chat, you know you’re being quizzed. They’re checking if you’re ‘worthy’.
Yet I’ve been with guy friends who wear metal shirts every single day, and it never happens to them. Most they get is “Hey! Great band!”
As a trans woman, it felt like a culture shock to go from being able to talk to guys about my interests without being constantly questioned pretransition, to now being quizzed and told I’m doing things wrong every time I mention a hobby of mine to 90% of guys, even well intentioned ones. They don’t even realize they’re doing it most of the time.
That’s horrible
Fucking men