I don’t know either. I don’t think online would work for me, but then you run into the catch-22. I decided a few months ago to start interacting online after a decade and still fight a bit anxious every time I post. Hopefully I’ll work up the courage to do something in person at some point, but 1 step at a time.
I would say say that you should probably examine where that anxiety is coming from. Are you scared because it’s a new unknown experience or because you’re forcing yourself to do something that don’t want?
Personally I would say that it’s difficult to say you truly don’t like something until you’ve given it a try(within reason). You never know what you may or may not enjoy and even if you find something that you don’t enjoy, you’ve learned a little something about yourself in going through the process. Just make sure you’re safe and don’t push yourself, but like you said doing nothing is a catch-22.
Its definitely the unknown. I talk about it a little bit here, if that link doesn’t work try this one, but its not your instance . As for the online, its hard to convey true meaning in text alone, and I just don’t like it much. I’m working on that though.
I’m sorry to hear that you feel so lonely. I can empathize with a lot of what you wrote, although to a lesser degree. Anxiety sucks and the pandemic period really made things exponentially worse. I know it did for me at least working remote and moving between three US states.
Everyone has the same worries and fears. They manifest in different ways and shapes, but they’re there whether it’s meeting someone for the first time or doing something new for the first time. At a certain point you have to be okay with putting yourself out there and maybe getting hurt. Not everything will work out, but what if it does? In most cases you have more to gain than you would ever lose.
All of this is obviously easier said than done but you’re stronger than you think you are.
I think I’m in the asexual but kinky camp. I’ve tried what I can on my own, but the list of what I would like to explore is… long.
I don’t know where you fall on the Ace spectrum, but it could be worth finding an online partner to help you out depending on what your cup 'o tea is
I don’t know either. I don’t think online would work for me, but then you run into the catch-22. I decided a few months ago to start interacting online after a decade and still fight a bit anxious every time I post. Hopefully I’ll work up the courage to do something in person at some point, but 1 step at a time.
I would say say that you should probably examine where that anxiety is coming from. Are you scared because it’s a new unknown experience or because you’re forcing yourself to do something that don’t want?
Personally I would say that it’s difficult to say you truly don’t like something until you’ve given it a try(within reason). You never know what you may or may not enjoy and even if you find something that you don’t enjoy, you’ve learned a little something about yourself in going through the process. Just make sure you’re safe and don’t push yourself, but like you said doing nothing is a catch-22.
Its definitely the unknown. I talk about it a little bit here, if that link doesn’t work try this one, but its not your instance . As for the online, its hard to convey true meaning in text alone, and I just don’t like it much. I’m working on that though.
I’m sorry to hear that you feel so lonely. I can empathize with a lot of what you wrote, although to a lesser degree. Anxiety sucks and the pandemic period really made things exponentially worse. I know it did for me at least working remote and moving between three US states.
Everyone has the same worries and fears. They manifest in different ways and shapes, but they’re there whether it’s meeting someone for the first time or doing something new for the first time. At a certain point you have to be okay with putting yourself out there and maybe getting hurt. Not everything will work out, but what if it does? In most cases you have more to gain than you would ever lose.
All of this is obviously easier said than done but you’re stronger than you think you are.
Thank you.
Believe me, I know my advice sounds like platitudes. Anxiety has a tendency to make simple things unnecessarily complex though.
Just know an internet stranger is genuinely rooting for your success! I’m rooting for you!