Transcript here, but I really recommend watching the video: https://youtubetranscript.com/?v=gsW3VsraJqo [search for “Applause” to skip add]

Brief definition here: https://www.lgbtqia.wiki/wiki/Amatonormativity

Being single shouldn’t be seen as some non-conformist statement

The focus of the video is on aromantics, but it is about societal expectations regarding relationships and how the goal is to live in a life long monogamous relationship.

The nice thing when watching videos for the second time before posting here is realizing all the connections my brain has formed in the background after so much time. It hadn’t occurred to me that, although I feel immune to the pressures at large to be in a relationship, I have actually entered romantic relationships because of how they would have deteriorated (or so I thought) without me accepting the transitions from friendships.

Amatonormativity can ruin it for everyone. You might be monogamous and totally happy, but putting a barrier between you and others that are close because the forms of intimacy we are led to believe to exist or to be okay are limited.

  • @Duchess
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    11 year ago

    I understand exactly what you mean. I’m in an ldr and have been for a long time. We’ve met up twice for extended periods of time and are working towards a visa now but it’s very hard being apart.

      • @Duchess
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        21 year ago

        We’re both saving like mad for a visa and legal advice right now but we at least know how much it’s going to cost.

        • @LucyLastic@beehaw.org
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          21 year ago

          So there’s a solution in sight! Keep at it, I know these things move at a galacial pace but the wait will be worth it!

          (me and my partner had to wait while she secured citizenship before we could move to another country together, it has been hard but so worth it)

          • @Duchess
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            21 year ago

            yeah, tbh i’ve been handling it worse than them. i’m the clingy, anxious type though so i have to keep reminding myself that every single day is progress.