I go with my gf to her grandmas lake house every year, and while its relaxing and fun, I absolutely notice a change in her demeanor, I find I have to walk on eggshells around her and every other thing I say or do seems to be wrong and warrants nagging. I have confronted her about this but she seems to deny any change in behaviour is happening and just retorts with “well I told you xxx!”
Obviously her family is stressing her out but it kills me that she won’t acknowledge that, especially since I’m such a straightforward person who likes to discuss what’s going on. And that shes such a family girl on top of that. I’m planning on marrying her but i m just not sure how to discuss this particular point of contention with her first, because it’s one of the few things she’ll get actually defensive about
For me this would be a red flag. I agree with other comments that it’s worth an attempt to work something out, but I’d be watching how a potential life-long mate acts around others too. There’s a saying: “How she treats the waiter is how she’ll treat you in a few years.”
Yeah idk if you read the “I plan to marry her” part.
Keep your ‘get out while you can’ attitude out of here, this isnt reddit
Actually I did notice that part. I’m sorry if my warning hit a nerve. Sometimes it’s good to re-evaluate plans, even when it’s painful.