Hey there,

I recently found out Kris Tyson is now trans. She had a wife and a child before the transition. This kind of made me wonder. How can anyone be sure they won’t turn out trans? Like what made you (to any trans people out there) make the switch?

To add a little context. I am a man, straight maybe a tiny bit bi. I have a some traits/interests that would typically be “reserved” (please excuse my terminology here and there) for women.

For instance, I dance a lot. I have even started ballet dancing. And in the past I had an eating disorder. Now I know this may sound a kind of bigoted or stereotypical. But I don’t mean it that way, this is purely based on statistics.

However I feel in no way that I am in the wrong body. I like being a man, I like the idea of masculinity, and I like being a man who dances. (Okay granted, I did not like the eating disorder)

But it makes me “worried” if I do end up trans when I already have a wife and children. I want to know before I get all of that done you know what I mean? Tyson probably wanted too, now that I think about it.

Bottom line: How did most trans people know they were trans?

  • @Forester
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    75 months ago

    If you would be totally happy and excited by the possibility of not having a penis and instead having a vagina then you’re probably trans. If, however, that idea horrifies you. Congratulations! You’re probably not trans. It’s basically that simple but with a few more steps.

    Sincerely a Bisexual cisgender furry with many gay pan and trans friends

    • @EveryMuffinIsNowEncrypted@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      5 months ago

      Not necessarily. There are plenty of trans women out there who are 100% fine with having a penis and have absolutely no desire to have bottom surgery.

      Same with trans men and vaginas.

      As well as with nonbinary people and whatever genitals they had when born.

      Being trans isn’t about your genitals; it’s about how you feel at a fundamental level.

    • @howrar@lemmy.ca
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      45 months ago

      How would you interpret it if you’re neutral towards the idea? Like, it would be an inconvenience to have to learn how to handle new bits, but otherwise, life just goes on as usual.

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        15 months ago

        did you ever have a point in your childhood/teenaged years where you thought it was stupid that people worked so hard to present masculine/feminine, or even a “transphobic” period in your life where you thought it was ridiculous that trans people would go through so much effort just to become their gender?

        • @howrar@lemmy.ca
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          25 months ago

          I may have been too autistic for this. I don’t think I had any understanding of what masculine/feminine even meant until my mid 20s.

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            15 months ago

            Well, I will relate that I am also too autistic for this gender shit and currently identify as nonbinary (more specifically, agender).

      • @Forester
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        15 months ago

        This is not my forte. I’m pretty sure you would fall under the definition of an egg or non binary. Personally I would think it would be super cool to experience the other side of things for an hour or two but I DO NOT want any type of long term change myself.

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      25 months ago

      i swear I’ve met cis men who wish they were trans men with vaginas though, and those cis men still want to be men so it’s hard to class them as trans or even nonbiney