• AggressivelyPassive
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    2122 days ago

    Truth is, it works often enough that they’ll keep trying.

    Whether it’s fear, greed, or actual attraction doesn’t matter to them, in their world they scored a win.

    • @[email protected]
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      822 days ago

      I remember when I needed the constant validation of getting sex from women in order to feel like a winner. Then I stopped being 20 years old.

      • AggressivelyPassive
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        1722 days ago

        I don’t think it’s validation in the sense we normies felt. For regular, sane men it’s more of a fitting in and being desirable kind of validation, women do the same in that age.

        For him and other powerful people (but also some regular men) it’s a power thing. Many powerful people are narcissists, and they live constantly under the dissonance of illusion of grandeur and inferiority complex. Essentially forcing their will onto others is a way to mitigate the latter.

        • @[email protected]
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          322 days ago

          Sure but that’s still validation right? “I’m powerful because I can get people to do what I want them to do”.

          • @[email protected]
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            621 days ago

            It’s the same phenomenon, but most people age out of it.

            To paraphrase Bojack Horseman: you stop maturing emotionally as soon as you no longer feel that you need to depend on other people.

            Or, to quote Ron Howard: “It’s Arrested Development”