(sorry if I shouldn’t be replying on this post just let me know if so - straight cis man)

My trans sister has expressed similar feelings. I’ve tried encouraging her to find some people she could befriend in the community while she’s on her transition journey. She says she doesn’t want to be part of the community, and once she’s fully passing in her eyes (I personally think she very much is already, and keep telling her that) that she wants to just live as a woman with nobody else ever knowing she’s trans. It’s obviously her choice, but I can’t help but constantly wish I could do more for her than just be supportive and love her for who she is.