I subscribe to some pet subs to see cute pictures of cats and dogs to improve my mood and then every tenth post or so is “my poor dead cat”. I hate it, I never knew your catdog and now im slightly sad that its dead. Now I have to unsubscribe from all these cute pet subs cause y’all can’t not talk about how dead your pets are. Maybe join a support group or something.

  • @Fal
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    2410 months ago

    Wtf. No one owes you their sadness, and it’s beyond selfish to expect others to be upset just because you are. You adopted the pet. It’s your responsibility, no one else’s.

    • Maeve
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      -510 months ago

      No and no one owes anyone bitterness, either. Scroll on is the point.

      Lemmy has gotten extremely vitriolic. As Sidhartha said, holding resentment is like swallowing poison and expecting the resented to die.

    • Norgur
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      That’s true for anyone not actively advocating for “share things that make me happy please but keep the sad sides to yourself, will ya?”

      That is selfish. I don’t expect anyone to be sad with me, but when you feel so bothered by people who want to share their grief between your happy goofy dog pictures that you complain about it, you come off as selfish.

      • @Fal
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        1410 months ago

        That’s true for anyone not actively advocating for “share things that make me happy please but keep the sad sides to yourself, will ya?”

        Yes, don’t post sad shit in communities not designed for that.

        That is not selfish.

        • Norgur
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          -410 months ago

          Who decides what a community is “designed for”? What makes you so sure the “dead animal posters” are in the wrong with how they see the community and not you?

      • @JPJones@lemmy.world
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        1110 months ago

        That’s not how life works. I don’t go around in public telling every random stranger about my dead mom and how much I miss her. That’s my burden to bear and would be completely inappropriate. The same goes for cute cat subs and there needs to be a rule preventing it.

        • Norgur
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          -510 months ago

          That’s not what’s happening here though. A community, however open to subscriptions, is still a closed off, alibeit permiable space. It’s like a community center that has a dog room. Everyone can see inside, everyone can be there, but no one is rubbing anything in anyone’s faces if you enter and see something you don’t like.

          • @JPJones@lemmy.world
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            610 months ago

            Yes, that is what’s happening. This is a public space. There is no permission required to be here anyone can participate. Dropping your dead animal story on a crowd of people trying to brighten up their day is a dick move. That’s it that’s all. I’m done here. G’night!

      • Pepsi
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        1010 months ago

        posting your personal sad stories to an otherwise wholesome, happy community is straight-up tone deaf antisocial shit.

        • Norgur
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          010 months ago

          You justify calling people antisocial because you decided that the community in question is wholesome and happy while the dead animal posts are literal proof to the opposite. If the community explicitly said that no sad posts were allowed, you’d be in the right. But a community doesn’t have to behave like you want it to just because you want it to, does it?

      • @Microplasticbrain@lemm.eeOP
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        710 months ago

        I am 100% being selfish in this situation. But y’all could also make a community specific for grieving the loss of a pet.

        • Norgur
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          -210 months ago

          Or you could make a community without that.