Your grasp of reality is fine but I would guess you haven’t been in any religious circles for a while.

People still wrapped up in religion don’t realize their values are hardly shared through all of society and are taught anyone outside of the circle are a breed apart. They are going to hell. Some evangelicals get misguided into thinking they can ‘save’ the heathens and that’s where we get anti-abortion shit but that’s not really what Christianity teaches.

The problems is there is just too many of them. You have all these people with these conflicting values saying they are inherently different than the non-believer so we can’t ever come together.