• @[email protected]
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    I don’t even make the chart? CIS father of a trans kid trying to make the trans kid laugh when they try to get my attention at the store by saying “Dad!”

    • @[email protected]
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      Yeah I dont think I’ve heard of anyone saying this to make fun of trans people.

      It’s not quite like the attack helicopter “joke” although that follows the same ratio of conservatives/making fun of conservatives.

        • @[email protected]
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          611 months ago

          It’s not funny so you might have missed it, but people like to say they “identify as an attack helicopter”. Conservatives, so “people” is accurate but a little bit of a stretch.

          • @[email protected]
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            Oh right, yeah I’ve heard that but didn’t think of it. It’s not funny, just assholes being assholes.

  • Queen HawlSera
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    The ONE time I heard this, I said it myself at the Gamestop where I’m a regular as a joke.

    I was asked Cash or Credit, and I in a faux-outraged voice just asked “Did you just assume my tender?”

    Then me and the cashier laughed.

  • Björn Tantau
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    Yeah, the only time I actually heard that phrase in real life was at a transsexual gaming night, followed by a burst of laughter.

      • @[email protected]
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        1811 months ago

        Did you just assume Gaming Night’s transness? Transsexual is a thing, and it’s distinct from transgender.

        • @[email protected]
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          911 months ago

          It’s not really that distinct, no. Not unless you’re transmed and believe pre and post op trans people need to divided from each other.

          Youre free to use whatever terms you’d like to use for yourself, but transsexual was how people referred to all transgender people until the term transgender took off in the late 90s.

          • dean [any pronouns]
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            go on bluesky and nearly the entire trans community uses the word transsexual. not in a transmed way (the community, at least my bubble, was very anti-transmed), but rather a “much of my trans identity comes from body dysphoria” way. when I was experimenting with bsky it was definitely a culture shock lol. I ultimately ditched bsky for separate reasons though

        • Smorty [she/her]
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          oh, then i am very sorri. i as genuinely not aware and assumed that it was an old-timey word. i apologize.

            • Lemminary
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              It implies a sex change op which is quite invasive of people’s privacy. It’s also inaccurate for a lot of trans folks who may only change their gender expression and avoid the operation altogether, hence the adoption of transgender that has the right emphasis.

                • Lemminary
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                  211 months ago

                  What’s the issue?
                  It has the wrong implications.

                  Sorry, I wasn’t clear!

                  It also sounds lewd but there’s a similar debate about “queer” even though that one has been mostly reclaimed.

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              Not op, but I was taught by one of my trans friends it was an old term and not very correct nowadays as it inferred being trans was something sexual and not just yknow, bring trans ig

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          Can you explain what it means to me? I’m nb and I’ve always disliked it because it tends to confuse people, making them think being trans is a sexuality.

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    You forgot “cis allies making fun on cis transphobes” which I calculate to be a larger slice of the pie than all the others combined.

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    🟩 me when accosted by an irate middle aged woman while exiting the pointlessly gendered single seat bathroom (I am a fully housebroken husband)

    ETA: by housebroken I mean i sit when i pee and clean up anything left on the bowl or seat that flushing doesn’t handle. It’s just good manners

  • @[email protected]
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    Actually, trans is like 0.1% of the total population, so that sliver of trans people who say that should much tinier.

  • @[email protected]
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    311 months ago

    People have evolved stereotyping and assuming things cause it was beneficial from the evolutionary perspective.

    • @djsoren19
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      Still is, people use heuristic thinking every day of their lives. It’s not like we’d be better off removing that part of us, the ability to make quick and decisive decisions should be applauded. We just need to remember that the first conclusion we jump to is not always correct.